not to derail the thread to much, but seeing as how it is one of my pet peeves I guess ill expand on it.
In terms of story telling or a well defined plot incidents , I am alright with character and civilian deaths; however in most cases random bystandards getting killed comes off more as manipulative and/or lazy and serves to pull me out of the story rather than immerse me.
Its one of the reasons that I enjoyed most of the Marvel films more than their recent DCEU counter parts;
Marvel films goes out of there way to either hide civilian deaths, or show the hero's actually protecting them. Meanwhile DC relishes in using on screen death to raise the stakes. I know this does not matter to some, but for me its a complete boner killer. I don't watch movies and shows to see on screen approximations of the people I love and myself getting murdered.